The Gospel of Jesus Christ is a message of grace and freedom, not one that is restricted by and to house rules and regulations. Don’t get me wrong, guidelines and boundaries are necessary for governing systems and organizations. However, encroachment happens when those rules and regulations are limiting individual expressions and personal identity. God did not created cookie cutter disciples. He is freely expressed throughout all of creation including mankind. If God is creative enough to allow each individual to have a separate set of fingerprints, he is also creative enough to allow himself to be display through each of us as unique individuals. God is not limited by our understanding, we are. In our efforts to lead others, it is legitimate to let go once the baby eagle learns to fly and allow them to explore their creative individuality.
Abuse = abnormal use. Wings become clipped and broken, creativity diminishes, and "failure to thrive" happens when the student becomes institutionalized. The burden of “following the leader” becomes too constringent for the student to function beyond its systematic rules and regulation. The earmark of a good mentor/leader is teaching the baby to grow and become self-sufficient beyond the nest. A good leader is never threatened by a student’s capacity to soar beyond that of the teacher.